I'm a sabotager sell out wanna be

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Hello Ava, 
I hope all's good in your hood. My name is John. I'm an Australian visual artist, musican, surfer, writer type person. Lately I have been having a problem. My girlfriend recently ran off to London with a stockbroker. Her reasoning was that she wants to have a baby, and that I don't make enough money for her to do that with me. That's not the real problem, though. The real issue is that now, I am really starting to feel the pressure to "sell out". I feel like, if I continue to do what feels right (freestyle creation), I am sabotaging my own life. Any advice you have at all would be greatly appreciated.
Yours sincerely,
Copenhagen






OK,Copenhagen. 

I'm sorry about your Predicament. 

MY inspirational advice is that, perhaps, you start using different language to describe your possibilities. 

Instead of saying "I should Sell Out"

Try saying, "I should try getting a job that supports the life I want to have."

That is, of course, if it IS the life you want to have. 

I don't know how old you are, but I have gone through a similar situation and I am in the process of learning a new career (other than art) to pay my bills in the future. The career that I have chosen is a career that will help other people and also pay for my life. There are many creative aspects to it. Because the job is creative and helpful, it could barely be called Selling out. Also, the job can help me form the life that I want, where I can pull my way and have a family in the future. It increases my self esteem. Oh course, this doesn't mean you won't miss aspects of your life now, whatever you do day to day. Your art will always be there. LIfe is an art and you need to adapt.

It's simple, really. If you really think what you are doing right now is "sabotaging" the life you want to have, you definitely should make some changes--and forget about the idea of "selling out". I've thought about selling out a lot, and ---I am not so sure selling out really exists. We all have goals and dreams. People who "sell out" generally were Born sell outs, were headed that way all along, SO--don't worry about that. 

Being afraid to change and be who you want to be is the real selling out, and there is no money involved, as--money is just a symbol 

toothay

ava k

Whhhat?

So in August of this year my girl so to be fiancee left me for some dude and then in September my father died suddenly from cancer. Oh, by the way hello Ava. 
Anyways, I got a better ring and started to work on my insurance license cause my father left us with nothing. Took, the good from the bad right?
So my question to you is, should I feel as if I got an ace up my sleeve with a nice ring and broken heart?
Man, all I use to do is dream of being married. Now at age 36, I still look 20 something. I only attract females in their 20s. I just hope I can have a partner in all area of my life. 
So, should I just do it like Nike, cause you only live once? Tell me how I should turn it all the way up? Inspire me Ava...
Oh, btw... I attracted to the young women too so I don't need help with that, but tell me what to do to unleash the beast inside of me to make it in business. 




You know Advice Seeker, 

Thanks for asking for advice---and condolences, But I don't really understand what you are asking ....

"Unleash the beast?"

Why would you get a better ring if you are no longer engaged?

Doesn't make a lot of sense. Maybe that's my advice to you, be more coherent, 

thanks.

Truly

Ava K

Getting A Job

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Hey Ava, your dancing inspired me. I danced before and haven't danced since, but I feel that the dancing I do in the future will be much more fun.


 Seeing that you have and inspirational newsletter, I figured I'd try. I need inspiration to go job hunting. I've always had a hard time doing so, but had been in school until very recently. I kinda get jittery and afraid that I will be rejected everywhere I go. I really need to get a job soon to support myself, but my fear still gets the best of me sometimes. All of the time. Just thought maybe you had a tip or two to give. Hope you're well.




Dear John Cayne,


Thanks for letting me know my dancing inspired you. I hope that you are dancing in the Future as your intentions stated. Could turn into a career.


Now to the WISDOM.


Congratulations, first off, for being out of school. You left out some information. Is your trade employable? Is there some special career you are after?


As everyone knows, getting a job is particularly challenging "these days" due to something you may have learned about in school, The Economy.  Yes, I didn't learn about that in school either. I went to art school. Are you an Economist?


Anyway, why beat around the bush? I am terrible at getting jobs. I have gotten so few jobs that I tried to get, and some of them horrendously underpaid jobs I didn't want.


Here are my tips to getting a job.


1. Have a job already. People like to hire people who are already employed. It's sexier. If you are currently looking for a good job I suggest you start with a worse job than the one you want just to play hard to get. Never be embarrassed of the Teaser Decoy Job, always act Proud.


2. Be related to the person you are trying to get a job from.


3. Lie. Yeah, I know all about all of that you are talking about. (This of course could end up making you look bad but sometimes it works out if you're a fast learner and good looking. That take me to 4


4. Be good looking but not so good looking that you makes people think about anything that makes them feel uncomfortable. It may be better to be well dressed than good looking.


5. Dress well. 


6. Hope whoever interviews you likes you. Try not to bore them but don't be exciting. Don't be creative or interesting, they may instantly find you threatening Especially if you are in a creative field.




Also, rest assured---most people who have asked me job advice have ended up being much more successful at careers and obtaining jobs than I have (thus far)...so in a way my advice is a merit-less rabbit foot--that works.


Not everything about inspiration is inspiring. You gotta get knocked down before you get up, Inspiration is wasted on the ecstatic.




Uggg, 


Getting a job is horrible.


Prepare you references to back up your lies.


I wish you great fortune on your enterprises.


Truly 


Ava K Lamb

FLUSHED WITH EMBARRASSMENT

Dear Ava K Lamb,

At the country club where I work, the toilets are not in stalls, they are in completely enclosed closets.  As a result, the autoflush toilet sensors, which ostensibly are light activated, do not go off until one opens the toiletcloset door completely.  Sometimes someone tries to go past me as soon as I open the door, and walk into the toiletcloset before the toilet has flushed, meaning my shit/blood/tampon is still sitting there.  I have learned to keep blocking the doorway till it flushes...but what can I say to the person who's trying to go in that would make things less awkward?

 signed FLUSHED WITH EMBARASSMENT

Quick answer...
Don't sensor toilets have a button on them (near the scensor)
So that you can manually flush before the light?
I tend to go that route.
Otherwise...I like the block the door plan. Maybe you could strike a pose...or make a business card to hand out that explains why you blocked the door. (dear madame, in your haste you have forgot to wait for my feces to flush, you should step back unless you would rather stand here and count to three) 

Or tell them ---"don't nudge past me please, I have poop on my hands"

Or leave something in the stall that you "remember" as you exit STALLING the stall transaction! (ohh i seem to have left my tunic on the TP dispenser)

Or bring construction flood lights or a flashlight in the bathroom with you to shine on the censor (whichever works) before you exit!

I like your question.
Ha, you could put of "police line do not cross" tape up ---and exclaim "if pooping is a crime, I'm guilty"...


Thanks for the great question, many people , million, are probably suffering in silence


I wonder how far you are willing to go to solve this ! 
Hope your having fun and your bowels are smooth
Xox

YEAH I fixed you

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GOOD Morrow AVA

will humans eventually turn into pixels?
has that happened already?
I figure peoples all around tiny and massive
believe in withering and there are some grasping explosive futures... tar for imaginations is a cramped dick weed in the chronicle of time.
in utter seriousness (all of it) can the creative little fucker in ones brain live eternal?
WHY HAVE I STOPPED DRAWING???

Sorry that's what I meant to ask in the first place - What do you do about re-figuring expression via art - ya know like I mean
jumping out of the time hole where all your creative juices sit all stagnant and what not... like all boring as fuck???
I think what i meant was I mean
im 25 and thats real close to 30
has imagination caught Ill wind?
well I figured maybe in here I answered some particular question I already had...
****I guess what IM REALLY ASKING IS HOW WOULD YOU RECOMMEND "OFFING WRITERS/DRAWER'S BLOCK?"

Ok Ok Ok could you recommend a good read for out of control blow up brains streaming conscious - or can I have a better question for later in regards to time traveling or shape shifting dynamics and general space monkey phenomena, like later... Can we submit drawings?

ありがとうございます。

Submit whatever you like, as long as it is of gentleman like taste. I've had drawings sent to me before.
Judging from your email, you are spending too much time flailing your arms and trying to grow peacock feathers.
I would recommend drawing as the remedy to not drawing. It's almost homeopathy.
I will tell you what I tell many others who insist on mentioning time travel or other such schemes, "I have no time for time machines."

Please enjoy yourself and remember you are only drawing when you are drawing.

If you have no passion for it perhaps you no longer draw and should try something you do do.

Sent from my Wireless Desk of Ava K

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that advice you gave me was like a large soda pop of weissenhower 

ill post you the drawing  when its finished!

Are you ever needing animation for film?

Thanks

Let's "JUST" be friends.

"Dear AVA K k k boom,

Thanks for the inspiration, really wonderful. 

I would love to get some feedback from you on something that's been nudging on my shoulder. 

Sitch: I used to love a boy. Then we both abandoned each other. He moved back to New York 2 years later. I feel like we both changed but slowly we are becoming familiar friends again. Now I find myself becoming attracted to him romantically again. BUT i know he's not enough for me and I am not enough for him, but I can't help but want to try things out again. AVA K, how do i discipline myself to not double dip. I find that I am weakening to nostalgic notions. Give me some of your perspective! 

PS. Do you believe in Hoodoo?

Best,

BRO's Friend

Hair Attention Makes Me Sad.

Dear Ava K, 

I started a new job 3 weeks ago, teaching private preschool at a country club. My immediate supervisor is a personal trainer in the fitness department.

I have cool hair and I wear it many different ways. This is partially because I have a long commute and no time to blow-dry every day. Anyway, Feri, my supervisor, has a need to comment on my hairstyle almost every day. It is always a compliment: 


"I like your two buns!" 


 "I like your little piggies!"

I know her motive is to say something nice. But her constant assessments make me feel conspicuous, self-conscious, and judged. When I do my hair in the morning I think about what she will say! I kind of dread seeing her, and I'm afraid I'll get overannoyed and pop off with some flip remark that will sound snarky.

Whether the solution is finding the right thing to say to her, or finding the right way to think about her comments, I am on board! You are great at advice! Tell me what you think please!


Dear Inspiration Victim, 


My first reaction was to think...
"Well, you should just ignore her."


Then I thought, well, your problem is that you can't ignore her. She is bothering you and, in her own way, she is insulting you. No matter what you do, she is noting it, and there is something invasive about that. Maybe you are just feeling self conscious, either way, you can get her to mind her own hair. Its hair-do able.


I commend you for being patient while you find out some way to deal with this rather than snarkiness, although, every now and then, who can help but be snippy. If this bit of advice I give you doesn't work...maybe you should just be a little bitchy and let her know what's up. Its not that big of a deal.


I can relate to your problem in my own way. I once had a job that was very image conscious and sometimes my manager would send me to the bathroom to change my outfit, fix my flyways, or put on different shoes. I felt like a human extension of her own OCD. It made me feel inhuman. I feel like you are feeling similar; like her compliments aren't complements but knee jerk reactions that are jerking you the wrong way.


I have thought of this strategy for you to use, and even if it doesn't "work",  I think that it will empower you.


Next time she comments on your hair, which will probably be the next time you see her (based on what you told me she doesn't miss a style) be her mirror. Every time she compliments you, compliment her right back on something really specific--something that catches her off guard. Don't just tell her you like the color of her shirt, tell her her earlobes are a pleasing shape. 


"I'm glad you like my pigtails. I have to tell you, your earlobes are a really pleasing shape."

The next day she compliments you, pick another awkward compliment, and deliver it as sincerely as possible.


"Yes, thank you for noticing my bun. I am noticing that the size of your necklace really makes your eyes look big."


Keep this up. Soon she will realize every time she fires you a compliment, the lens is going to be pointed right back at her. Now remember, make the compliments you give her really specific. Make her feel really looked at.


I think that after a few run ins, that strategy will work. If that doesn't work, you can also try to combat her compliments by putting her to the challenge. 


"I noticed you like my hair almost every day. How about after school I teach you how I do my hair styles. Maybe you want to try them out one day. Here, take my phone number. Let's do a hair workshop."

If her hair isn't long enough to style tell her you will teach her how and she can do it on her nieces. Something silly like that. The idea is to make her think that if she obsesses over your hair, you are going to make her accountable for loving it.  If she loves your hair that much, let her prove it. Chances are she will shy away from the topic in the future to avoid going to your hair academy.


Last ditch effort...after you try all the other options, tell her you actually have hair plugs. Tell her you have female pattern baldness and that these are the styles where it shows the least. You wish that you could wear your hair down but you are too worried the baldness may show. Ask her if she has noticed her bald spots. Chances are she will shy away from your hair in the future.


If none of that works--just tell her you appreciate her compliments but compliments make you feel uncomfortable and it would be better for you if she didn't comment. She will probably feel awkward to be called out but, she will get over it quick. You can say it in a nice way. 


That's it. 
I totally solved your problem. 




I can be sure, one or all of these methods will work. 


Now go forth inspired.


Truly
Ava K Lovemaker


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Doctor's Orders.

Dear Ava K,

When I was a small child an old man molested me.  I forgot all about it, but a few years later he tried it again and it all came rushing back. I didn't bother trying to discuss it with my family because they basically adopted me to avail themselves of my orphan's Social Security check, and were very abusive themselves. 

You would think that being molested would screw me up for sex, but actually I am fine with sex.  It screwed me up for DOCTOR VISITS.  More often than not, entering a doctor's office (male or female) makes me go into a very anxious place emotionally and a lot of the time I say or do the wrong thing, or cry.  I have been dismissed from two medical practices for crying.  Did you even know ppl can be "dismissed" from a medical practice?  One of them was my obstetrician!

Today I have no insurance, and I know I have developed a condition that needs treatment.  When I do see a doctor, I will have to pay cash.  So for one thing, I want to keep my head during the visit, and for another, I'm going to ask a lot of the doctor in terms of not sending me to other doctors I can't afford.  What would your advice be on how to feel less awful when seeing a doctor?  I already see a therapist of course.

Dear Inspirational Advice Victim. 

Us here in the inspiration nation are very woeful to hear the backstory of your inspiration plea. Despite of foggy eyes, we recognize that you must be a true child of inspirtation. 

I could see how some faint of inspiration may argue that I am not qualified to answer this inspiration problem. As we know, those people would be wrong. Anyway, you already have a therapist, which I'm glad you specified...now I don't have to give you responsible advice to..."go to a therapist" and I can just give you the inspirational advice which your therapist in unqalified to do. Does your therapist write an inspirational newsletter???

Of course not. 

Its just nice how my qualifications qualitfy themselves. 

Oh yes, enough about me. 

The bassis of your plea is simple. You have a PHOBIA of the doctor. Right? You have all these terrible things that led up to this point that we could never actually solve....BUT, we can get you to the doctor. We cannot solve the past together. We can't even be sure the past is a Problem to be solved or that can be solved. It is purely mathmatical, our complete Lack of abilty. The Great Incompetence we have could melt a planet instantly. 

Isn't it Fine. So Fyne. 

What was I saying. 

I am going to apply a specialized practice to your problem, something your therapist may not  be man enough to do. Well doctors do it all over the place really, they're like flies. Its called EXPOSURE THERAPY and you can even see examples of it on really stupid shows like Maury Povitch. The famous example was the girl who was afraid of pickles. If you haven't youtubed that video yet, maybe you should its hilarious. Shows like this kind of treatment because (A) it works and (B) on the serface it seems really Creul and can create quite a specical. Screaming, rubber snakes, crying, that kind of thing. It can seem very silly, this process of "helping people."  In its defense though, it is not some modern idea, if you think about it its really a form of homepathy and its also rather tantric. I would be good at administering this sort of therapy if I were a recognized physicain (but of course if I were a recognized physician you would be scared of me and would be crying right now.)

At least you didn't waste any money!

CRY BABY.

Just kidding. 

anyway, that was just me indulging in my treatment plan. 

Rolling in the manuer of health. 

So I nicked this treatment plan off an exposure therapy website and I am modifying it for you from fear of dogs to fear of doctors. 

facing a fear of dogs doctors

• Step 1: Draw a dog doctor on a piece of paper.
• Step 2: Read about dogs. DOCTORS
• Step 3: Look at photos of dogs. DOCTORS
• Step 4: Look at videos of dogs.
• Step 5: Look at dogs DOCTORS through a closed window.
• Step 6: Look through a partly-opened window.
• Step 7: Look at them from a doorway.
• Step 8: Move further out from the doorway.
• Step 9: Have a helper bring a dog DOCTOR into a nearby room (on a leash).
• Step 10: Have the helper bring the dog DOCTOR into the same room, still on a leash.
• THIS IS THE PART WHERE I MAKE SOME STUFF UP

Seeing doctors like to get Paid a lot more than dogs do...We need to add some more stipulations and Ideas. 

HURRY HURRY HURRY

to your nearest Halloween store. Its all on clearance. I am not Kidding. Buy a Doctor costume. Whatever it takes, get a doctor costume. Go to a doctor supply store. Get a nurse outfit too. Time for you to be a director, like me. 

I AM GIVING YOU DOCTOR'S ORDERS to play DOCTOR. 

Get your friend to play it at first. As you get more comfortable make the settting more and more realistic. Maybe find someone you know with an office of any kind and go play doctor in the office. You can start with a good friend in the doctor costume but then branch out and get someone you don't know that well to dress up like a doctor and give you a fake check up. My advice though, is don't have anyone you are romantically involved with playing the doctor. That's a little perverse and may cross too many wires for you. 

Anyway, I am not joking. I really think you should do this and I would help you plan it futher but I can't. Maybe sit down with a good friend who wants to help you and get them to administer these exposure therapy tests on you. If you do this treatment agressively, it is possible to become normalized much quicker than you imagined. Within one to three days you should start changing and mellowing out on the doctor fear. I'm sorry to say this, I'm not trying to be a jerk, but if you are afraid to go to the gyno you should probably get someone at the very least get you with your legs open on a table. 


The details of this event are up to you but I think the close you get to Playing the realty, the better your chances of going to the doctor without being banned and wasting money. You know, I'm only saying that you should do that because, that where it gets really perverse and I'm willing to vouch for the fact that, I think thats a important part of the treatment. I'm sorry. Remember, treatments aren't meant to be comfortable. You have to live through the fear. Remember, its not a real doctor and you are in control of the situation. Oh yeah, that reminds me, besides someone playing doctor you will also need some kind of coach, to remind you "This is all a dream."


I am not saying this is a good idea but, when I cast a short vid or a long vid, you would be surprised how many actors (when given a challenging role) are willing to act for free. Like I said, make sure you have a good friend to supervise. 


Something you probably thought of already but I so want to put that out there that maybe getting a female doctor would help???

This isn't an easy prescription but its the only kind of advice I can give you that I think will work. 

My video about health concerns

I too have no insurance and I used some of the inspiration of having a medical problem with no help of diagnosis in my latest video. ALthough I really exaggerated my medical problem on the video, its really scary to be sick and know you can't do anything about it. I hope you do try my treatment method. 


I also encourage you to look up this type of treatment for phobias and undertake it in a serious way. 

Remember, despite how understandable your fear is, it is actually irrational. 

NOW go play doctor. 

Doctor's Orders!! 

BOYFRIEND CHEATING ON YOU WITH HIS DAD??

My boyfriend and I had a tumultuous long-distance relationship for about three years.  He often did not tell the truth about his interactions with other girls, so one day I broke it off.

We were apart for a year, and I was miserable every second.  Meanwhile, he incurred some really bad debts with Unemployment Compensation and with a number of check cashing places.  We got back together, and a short time later, my boyfriend moved into an apartment with his Dad, ostensibly because Dad needed a roommate for financial reasons.

The four months since then were fine, but then about a week ago my boyfriend started acting weird.  We aren't talking on the phone except for a 2-minute check-in here and there.  While IMing, my bf told me his dad had started giving him a lot of flak about money, the choices my bf makes, and how bf spends his time.  He also said work is super busy now and he's feeling really harried.  Then he said, "I don't know if I have the energy for a relationship right now."  We have not officially broken up, but I was definitely unhappy to hear this.

What do guys mean when they say something like that, in your opinion?  Obviously I suspect my bf's Dad may have moved him in with the ulterior motive of supervising him more, which blows, as bf is 30 years old.  Should I try to talk to my bf, or just wait till the wind changes?  And how does one assert herself in the right way, when the challenge to the relationship is bf's Dad, who is his favorite family member?  That is three

?uestions, so I hope you will address them all like they used to tell us to do in college essay days.
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Certainly. I will indeed answer this thoughtfully and completely.
I really don't think I will be telling you much that you want to hear. I get it sister. You got used to this Boyfriend of yours, and you like him. Well, time to hear MY OPINION of him. hehe.

First off. Do you realize how many times this Boy Friends Dad topic comes up? This is not normal. Your boyfriend's dad may as well be the other woman. 

So remember back when you guys were long distance and he was cheating on you? He still is. With his dad. At the very least. He's not cheating on you Sexually with his dad, but he is mentally by having his partnership and loyalties lie more heavily with his dad than with you. It's not right.

Your boyfriend sure has an excuse for everything. And he seems to be thinking of himself a lot. Unless he is think about his dad. This isn't normal, not even if he were fifteen would it be normal. But he is twice that, he is 30. Why doesn't any of his excuses have anything to do with you? What do you get??

You need to watch this. 

I don't get it. How is it he can do less than nothing, and he still gets your dedication.

You really deserve a better return on investment.

Let's talk about him some more.

You know how he is in trouble for stealing unemployment or whatever he did. That's not cool. Its not so bad that he is stealing from the government, the problem is that he thought that he wouldn't get caught.  He shows some really obvious signs of being an all around dishonest person. I hate to tell you this, but it is a serious possibility he is still cheating on you. All his disinterest...
Check cashing places. I hate to be the first person to tell you this, and I don't mean it to put anyone down...But I just want you to know. From an outside perspective, No sane person would want to grab your boyfriend with a ten foot pole.


I'm sorry.

You Caught a dud.

He can't be this much of a fuck up and still treat you like shit. He hasn't earned that right. No wonder he treats you so bad. He has no idea how luck he is to have you. He is drowning in his own world of darkness...self pity...Stealing.
And of course let's add his undying love for his father into the mix.
NOT A PRETTY PICTURE

Did you consider that maybe Your boyfriend wanted to move in with his dad? Not even that his Dad wanted him to move in with him?
Yeah.

Maybe he moved in with his dad so he can steal and cheat more.

I wouldn't be surprise.

LISTEN

I believe in second chances. I really do. But I think that people who fuck up should be bold and rightous when correcting their mistakes. Not whiney with lots of EXCUSES about his dad.

Let his Dad fix his problems then. He doesn't have the right to complain to  you.

I officially REVOKE his right to complain to you. He sucks. I also want him to return all his Christmans presents he got as a child. He obviously was on the bad list the last couple years.

Then he said, "I don't know if I have the energy for a relationship right now."  We have not officially broken up, but I was definitely unhappy to hear this.

What does he mean by this???

 He means Exactly what he said.
I'm sorry. He means what he said. There is no room for interpretation...
I totally understand why you don't want to hear that. Why you want to interpret it as something else...

He just happens to be a Pussy. 
Instead of saying "I don't have energy for a relationship right now"
he is using Puss Face talk by saying "i don't know"


What does he know then??? What does he know? Does he know that you desserve better? Because I know that you do. 
You're a person, not an optional side of fries. You have given him so much time and understanding of all his flaws fuckups and incest...
And he gives you I don't know?
Fuck him. 
Really. 


I know its a lot easier for me to tell you he is Done than it is for you to understand it. You put a lot into him that you don't want to give up...but what has he done with the love you give him?


It appears to me he takes it, and he gives it to his dad.
Its lame.


If he were in a sitcom his character would be a loser.


YOu can't debate that...That is a fact.

And how does one assert herself in the right way, when the challenge to the relationship is bf's Dad, who is his favorite family member? 


Listen. If you have to compete with his dad, game is over. You and his dad should not be in the same catagory.

I am sorry, I know it's not gonna be easy. You need to walk away. And I hope he doesn't chase after you. Which he probably eventually will....for the same reason he doesn't want to outright dump you....you are too nice to have around. You do anything for him. Why would he dump you. You're like a free cow with tons of milk. You even feed yourself.

I would never do what he has done. It is UTTER(cow)ly ridiculous.   If my parents ever tried to make me ruin my relationship and life by telling me where to live and what to do....I would think they went insane!!!
And I would say No way Hose!
You need to start shifting your priorities Sista.
If he were the guy for you he would realize that you are probably the only good thing about his life, and he would thank the Lord you were there for him when he got home from his shitty job...
But he's giving all his love to his father.

Its Over.

Ps>>>

Let me beat you to the punch.  

If you are thinking Ava, dear ava. You misunderstood. Don't you realize how much we love eachother? I forgot to tell you about the time he said I was pretty. OR"its more complicated than that ava...."

Well let me tell you. 

Nothing you could tell me that you add to this picture could make him good enough for you. 

I don't care if he is your soul mate or he is the sexiest ride in town.

Nothing. If it's more complicated, its too complicated, and It is OVER.

Whether or not you will take my advice is all you need to figure out.